Dave got a 'yes' from Pastor Mike to be able to marry us!! It was very exciting! Dave told us last Monday, and we did our Pre-marital counseling survey on Wedniesday night before the ONE service at 7:30. It was 156 questions long! Matt and I were both a little weary about what exactly would be asked, but it turned out to not be too bad at all. We did talk about a few of the questions afterwards that we remembered. Now, we're just waiting for it to come back with the results so we can start our actual counseling with Dave. That should be exciting...
I have had a trying time these last few months. I can not get people to understand what kind of stress I am really dealing with, and they just keep pushing. This stress is realyl have a negative affect on my body and causing some changes to occur that are not good for me, but no one will understand. It is also causing me to have mood swings, and I admit it because I know I am, and it is costing me more than just these severely agonizing pains to my body. But I really can't help it, and I don't know what to do about it. There are several people manipulating me with stuff and I can't handle it. I don't think that I have ever been more ready for June 7th to be here than I am now. I need to get all of this decision crap behind me and onto better decisions about my actual life. I'm still more than ready to just get in the car and go to the courthouse, or Vegas for that matter, and just do it that way. Matt doesn't want that, so I'll make him happy by giving him what he wants. I think I'd be a lot happier if we'd just do that. But I don't guess that it really matters what I want... and I'm the BRIDE. I feel like I'm in "Bridewars" with this wedding... and it's not even the case as it was in the movie.
I don't know what to do anymore. I'm at the point of just letting everything happen however it feels like happening. If someone on the street wants to make my plans for me, so be it. That's the point I've gotten to. I'm not losing friends over something that I can not control and they want to be pushy about.
I may lose friends from writing just this, but I guess everything happens for a reason and I'm just going to give everything to GOD and let Him handle this, because it is no longer in my own hands.
On a positive note, Matt and I had an amazing Valentine's Day. Well, after I got done working, of course! He had left me a single rose in the seat of my car when I got off, and I came home to find the present he got me along with another rose on my bed, and a bouquet of star-gazer lilies and roses on my dresser! :) My present was a cute little picture frame with a picture of us from the night we got engaged. <3 We got the Hockey Love package deal to see the Preds play that night as well. It included a picture, the tickets, and 2 food vouchers that got us a hot dog and a small drink. Not such a lovely V-day dinner, but it was alright. The seats were a little high for me, as I have a fear of heights, but it got a little better as the night went on. It was such an exciting game!!! And the PREDS ended up winning after one overtime, and then a shootout! :D Matt and I were so happy!!!
And on that happy note, I leave you for the afternoon! Have a great rest of President's Day!
Monday, February 16, 2009
Friday, February 6, 2009
Wedding planning update & randomness...
Soooo..... Tomorrow is my 22nd birthday... :) I don't guess it's going to be a big blow out, but I guess at least, God willing, I'll be alive to see 22. :)
Matt and I had been in a rut trying to figure out who was going to marry us. Our main possibility was going to be our college pastor since he knows both of us. Our major concern with that one was that he and his wife are expecting their 3rd child the end of May, beginning of June and I was not going to be the one to take his away from his family at that time. So, Matt and I were trying to figure out who other possibilities could be. We talked about several of the pastors in our home church, and tried to figure out who'd be best or who could actually do it. Then, we got some disturbing news that none of the pastors from our church can even come to the wedding because of a Vacation Bible School kick-off going on that the rules are no one can get out of being there unless there's a death in the family. So, that really hit us hard, and toyed with the idea of a pastor we'd thought about after the situation with our primary pastor choice. But the only problem with that pastor is that he is out of state, and we were concerned about the Marriage Counseling that we wanted to take place before getting married. It was such a hard decision to think about, because neither of us have the money to take time off work and go to South Carolina. I think we even JOKED abuot getting Matt's brother to get ordained and marry us, but we didn't want to have to put that on him because we know how busy he is! It was just a funny idea if we couldn't find anyone else. We eventually just said we'd see what we could do about Dave, our college pastor, and talk to him to see what we could even do as far as seeing is he could do the wedding or whatever. We finally got to talk to him Wednesday night after church. He didn't even think he was going to be the one we wanted to do the wedding! Which kind of made me sad, but completely understand since it's taken so long to even ask him... he said that 20 people had asked him if we was doing our wedding, so that puts it into perspective of why he should be the one to do it! He was actually pretty shocked when we asked him what kind of possibility it would be to get him for the wedding, and informed him that we did factor in Baby Odom #3 and the VBS thing and completely understood if there was just no way. But it was encouraging that he said he was see what he could to make it happen! That lifted about as much weight as finding my dress did! haha! I really thought I was going to be in my jeans and a t-shirt for the wedding!
So, now we just have to see what the "boss man", the senior pastor Mike, says about him missing the VBS ordeal and what his wife thinks about him doing the wedding so close to the baby's due date. We're just praying! I also want to thank Emily & Joy for your encouragement during this process! I appreciate it very much!! :) I'm just going to keep the though "We'll be married at the end of the day, no matter what" in my mind! It's just stressful trying to keep up with going to classes and doing homework, and working on top of all the wedding planning and decisions I have to make. I know I have become somewhat a different person fromt his whole process and am very sorry for how I have acted and let my stress get the best of me. It's hard, ya know? But, I'm getting through it with the best attitude I can, and I think I have actually gotten better since I have my dress ordered and have a pastor pretty much locked in. :) God will show us what's best for us and our wedding, and we'll just do it in His best intentions! :) I just can't wait to be married to Matt and live the rest of my life with him. It's going to be a breath of fresh air to be able to have him there anytime I need him! I'm just glad he hasn't decided that this form of "Kristen" he's seeing through this wedding process hasn't pushed him away or want to stop the wedding! He's hanging in there with me and trying to help me keep my head up! I'm so lucky to have him by my side throughout this whole decision process and not being like the normal guys who don't want to have to deal with anything wedding related! He's a GREAT fiance' and I love him more and more each passing day! I can't wait to have the honor to call myself HIS WIFE! :) And, I'm so thankful to have the friends I have! I couldn't ask for anyone better! I love you alll!!! I wish I could show my appreciation more and in better ways, but that will come later hopefully!!! :)
TOMORROW: HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!!! :) <3
Matt and I had been in a rut trying to figure out who was going to marry us. Our main possibility was going to be our college pastor since he knows both of us. Our major concern with that one was that he and his wife are expecting their 3rd child the end of May, beginning of June and I was not going to be the one to take his away from his family at that time. So, Matt and I were trying to figure out who other possibilities could be. We talked about several of the pastors in our home church, and tried to figure out who'd be best or who could actually do it. Then, we got some disturbing news that none of the pastors from our church can even come to the wedding because of a Vacation Bible School kick-off going on that the rules are no one can get out of being there unless there's a death in the family. So, that really hit us hard, and toyed with the idea of a pastor we'd thought about after the situation with our primary pastor choice. But the only problem with that pastor is that he is out of state, and we were concerned about the Marriage Counseling that we wanted to take place before getting married. It was such a hard decision to think about, because neither of us have the money to take time off work and go to South Carolina. I think we even JOKED abuot getting Matt's brother to get ordained and marry us, but we didn't want to have to put that on him because we know how busy he is! It was just a funny idea if we couldn't find anyone else. We eventually just said we'd see what we could do about Dave, our college pastor, and talk to him to see what we could even do as far as seeing is he could do the wedding or whatever. We finally got to talk to him Wednesday night after church. He didn't even think he was going to be the one we wanted to do the wedding! Which kind of made me sad, but completely understand since it's taken so long to even ask him... he said that 20 people had asked him if we was doing our wedding, so that puts it into perspective of why he should be the one to do it! He was actually pretty shocked when we asked him what kind of possibility it would be to get him for the wedding, and informed him that we did factor in Baby Odom #3 and the VBS thing and completely understood if there was just no way. But it was encouraging that he said he was see what he could to make it happen! That lifted about as much weight as finding my dress did! haha! I really thought I was going to be in my jeans and a t-shirt for the wedding!
So, now we just have to see what the "boss man", the senior pastor Mike, says about him missing the VBS ordeal and what his wife thinks about him doing the wedding so close to the baby's due date. We're just praying! I also want to thank Emily & Joy for your encouragement during this process! I appreciate it very much!! :) I'm just going to keep the though "We'll be married at the end of the day, no matter what" in my mind! It's just stressful trying to keep up with going to classes and doing homework, and working on top of all the wedding planning and decisions I have to make. I know I have become somewhat a different person fromt his whole process and am very sorry for how I have acted and let my stress get the best of me. It's hard, ya know? But, I'm getting through it with the best attitude I can, and I think I have actually gotten better since I have my dress ordered and have a pastor pretty much locked in. :) God will show us what's best for us and our wedding, and we'll just do it in His best intentions! :) I just can't wait to be married to Matt and live the rest of my life with him. It's going to be a breath of fresh air to be able to have him there anytime I need him! I'm just glad he hasn't decided that this form of "Kristen" he's seeing through this wedding process hasn't pushed him away or want to stop the wedding! He's hanging in there with me and trying to help me keep my head up! I'm so lucky to have him by my side throughout this whole decision process and not being like the normal guys who don't want to have to deal with anything wedding related! He's a GREAT fiance' and I love him more and more each passing day! I can't wait to have the honor to call myself HIS WIFE! :) And, I'm so thankful to have the friends I have! I couldn't ask for anyone better! I love you alll!!! I wish I could show my appreciation more and in better ways, but that will come later hopefully!!! :)
TOMORROW: HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!!! :) <3
Sunday, February 1, 2009
Getting you up-to-date!
Matt and I have been dating for over 3 years now. He is my best friend, and I can not wait to marry him! He is the best thing that's happened to me, and really helped me change my life for the better. He is what completes me. Matt is always encouraging me spiritually, mentally, physically, and emotionally. I could not ask for a better person to spend the rest of my life with!
Matt and I got engaged on December 7, 2008. He took me to see the Christmas lights at Opryland Hotel, and on our way to leave he proposed to me! How exciting! I knew it was coming, but didn't realize I'd still have such a big reaction. It was so cold, I really didn't know what I'd do, but it was the best proposal ever! Matt loved it!
We're getting married Sunday June 7, 2009 on the front porch of Oakland's House Museum which is a historic mansion in Murfreesboro that was caught in the middle of crossfire during the Civil War. It will be an outside wedding at 4:30 p.m. The reception will be immediately following in Maney Hall of the same venue.
What I envision it to be will be great and exciting fun for everyone, but we'll see if my vision of the wedding and reception comes true through the decisions I have to make. I have really been bad at making decisions for the wedding. I didn't realize how hard it really was. I do intend on dancing, if that's all the turns out of it, so be prepared for that at least!! :)
What I have completed so far for the wedding is minimal. I'm nowhere where I wish I could be in the planning and decision-making. Our colors are black and hot pink! One of the very first things Matt and I accomplished was securing our photographer, Angie Gambill. I'm very excited to see her work and potential as she captures our big day. We had a time and a half trying to get our venue, and deciding if it was where we really wanted to get married. But we finally got it in the beginning of January. I asked my grandfather to walk me down the aisle since he is and has been such an important part of my life since I was born. My parent's got divorced when I was 2 years old, and my mom, sister, and I moved in with him and my grandma. We lived with them for 6 years until my mom re-married to my stepfather. My Pop, as we call him, helped raise me and gave me everything I ever needed. I love him so much, and can't imagine anyone to give me away!
A family member is going to be doing our floral arrangements in an attempt to save money. She does amazing work with artificial flowers, so I can't wait to see what she has in store for us! I love several types of flowers, but I think I have narrowed my choice down to a couple of them, and we'll see how well they look together when it gets a little warmer and we can put them together!
The next thing we marked off of our to-do list was the groom and groomsmen's tuxedo's. I was not thinking it would have been as easy as it really was. I didn't know what to expect when we walked into Street Tuxedo here in Murfreesboro. I saw a tie that had our colors on it, but wasn't all that enthralled with the actual tie. But, I decided to see what it looked like with everything together. I absolutely loved it, and so did Matt. I couldn't believe how easy it turned out being. The groomsmen will be wearing the same thing with the ties that I first picked out, Matt will be wearing the same tie just in the white form. My grandfather will also be wearing the same tux, but in the black form. I can't wait to see the wonderful men of my life in their dress up clothes! I'll be the one CRYING and in white! haha.
My mom and I have been in search for the perfect linens for the tables... needless to say, we haven't found them. YET! We found a perfect idea for them in an idea pamphlet at Hobby Lobby. You'd think that if they gave you the idea, they'd have the fabric. Wrong. But, we're not giving up! :)
So, the most stressful part of this whole wedding planning has been the search for the perfect dress! The bridal shops were no help in my stress, because I knew I was running way out of time to order a dress if I needed to, they kept reminding me that I needed to hurry up. I do not like to be rushed, so that tore me away from buying any dress from some of the places we went to. I absolutely DO NOT recommend ever going to David's Bridal in Murfreesboro. They are outrageous on prices, and are very pushy when it comes to making a sale. The whole experience is supposed to be a fun and exciting one, but they made me upset and mad. Their customer service is not what it should be, and so I completely crossed them off my list. Fortunately, I found my dress at one of the first places I went to to try on dresses, and went back to try it on and actually ordered it last Thursday! So, that made a major relief in my life! It's not going to be here until April 15th, so hopefully it comes in on time so that I can actually get it altered on time!
That's all I have done so far, it's a good START... but I only have 4 months to figure out the rest. Hopefully with the family and friends, and amazing bridal party I have, I can get it done in no time!
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